I like this thread.
Yes, it does seem the sideways is a revealing side to the characters.
Ben's all-time shining moment was his dialog with Ilana.
And when she said "I'll have you", it felt as if the sweet voice of God Himself was telling our Ben he was forgiven.
All of the stone wall came melting down. Ben's great burden was lifted.
I myself almost felt that total enveloping love and peace of redemption in that moment.
It was the best moment of Lost thus far. imo.